Often we call me a gay girl. Often we call myself personally a queer woman. Once or twice, I’ve actually called myself personally a lesbian. I’m usually not a person to base my personal identity around rigid labels or cardboard boxes, thus I have a tendency to go through all of them lots. But from the time we transitioned, I for ages been a bisexual woman. It’s just a known matter of fact. I’ve found men, women, and non-binary folks lovable, i prefer dating and enjoying all of them. Basically needed to limit myself personally just to one sex, I’d be rather angry; i possibly could never ever do that.
But bisexuality is a complicated, difficult sexual identification. It’s the one that’s rarely understood. The thing is, my bisexuality actually precisely a 50/50 split. The simple truth is, we mainly lean towards matchmaking various other ladies.
I am not really certain why. It isn’t that I prefer a specific type female sex demonstration. I mean, from soft femme to soft butch and all things in between, I favor becoming with females of types. I assume there’s really no various other reason to it than the undeniable fact that they generate my center dash to get me all nervous whenever I’m in front of one I like. Perhaps that’s because females simply click with me, they comprehend me personally, they speak to me personally and keep discussions with me which are recognizing, relatable, and empathetic. Or it is because many of the ladies I’m drawn to imagine at all like me. Some other sexes is attractive, yes, and I are unable to say I merely already been with ladies. In case I’d to select a certain sex identity up to now, it will be girls.
See, that is where my issues occur. Or rather, this is where my issues with other individuals arises.
First off, anytime the term «bisexual» comes up, absolutely this presumption right-away that «bi» equals «two sexes.» That is not genuine. The «bi» connotes multiplicity in intimate detection, in lieu of merely getting attracted to one method of person. So bisexual does not mean «attracted to men and women,» it indicates one that is keen on their very own gender together with another gender. Or a variety of some other sexes. Because respect, its very complex.
But that is only one issue. A lot of people think that bisexuality means a level intimate interest between both women and men. That isn’t accurate to living encounters whatsoever, because You will find choices that lie in my own bisexuality. I prefer various other trans women a lot of, cis men the least, and several some other men and women between. That is so just how I normally connect with others: i’m more sexual interest to trans females because we connect with various other trans women really highly, whereas personally i think the smallest amount of with cis guys because we’ve almost no in accordance. Yes, I’ve fulfilled some guys which can arrive at third base any time, but it is in contrast to cis guys all together tend to be as attractive to me personally as other women are.
But I digress. If you are bisexual, the presumption usually a person’s sexual attraction between genders is obviously equal, as if one’s intimate appeal towards Man {A|thean is often will be just like powerful or steady as it’s towards lady B. But sexuality is fluid and difficult. The reality is, for bisexual folks like us, some genders are simply more appealing to united states as opposed to others. It isn’t really that individuals are «really homosexual» or «really directly» or «really pan,» it’s simply we truly, severely cannot measure our sexualities into percentages. Sorry, I am not 35% right and 65per cent homosexual. Who i am drawn to and exactly how I present that destination is really individualistic in the wild. And it also has a lot regarding in which I am in my own existence, who I would like to be close with, and just why I would like to have a relationship using them.
As a sexual identification, bisexuality is extremely different. Bisexual males may go through various sexual thoughts and choices: while an individual might prefer ladies, another bi-guy might largely choose guys. Similarly, the manner by which we believe sexual destination and need differs from one individual to another. Some local bisexual women may feel a powerful wish for many sexes; other individuals might feel sexual attraction to simply one or two women and men, and that’s it. Like most other sexual identity, bisexuals are common individuals with tastes and beliefs. It is simply flat-out incorrect to assume that bisexuality is a strong, strong split inside the sex binary. As bisexuals, we think and encounter sexual interest in lots of ways. And that’s why there is solitary, worldwide «bi knowledge.»
As a bisexual lady, I understand that my personal sexuality could be challenging. That is because bisexuality is dependent on different experiences that encompass and embrace an umbrella of intimate attractions. There is nothing completely wrong thereupon. But there is something very wrong with stereotyping bisexual people and generating assumptions about all of our preferences or sexual life. Which is never ever okay to do. It is vital to honor the directly to privacy and self-identification. And also by respecting you and beginning your mind to just how our very own sexuality operates, you’re going to get the chance to come to be a much better friend to all of us bisexual individuals.
(Head picture by Roman Kraft on Unsplash.)
/* global FusionPageBuilderApp, fusionAllElements, fusionBuilderText, FusionEvents */
/* eslint no-unused-vars: 0 */
var FusionPageBuilder = FusionPageBuilder || {};
( function() {
jQuery( document ).ready( function() {
// Content Boxes Child View.
FusionPageBuilder.fusion_pricing_column = FusionPageBuilder.ChildElementView.extend( {
/**
* Creates params from child shortcodes.
*
* @since 2.0
* @return {void}
*/
onInit: function() {
this.setPriceParams();
this.setFooterContent();
this.setFeatureRows();
this.clearInvalidParams();
// Price params history.
this._priceUpdateHistory = _.debounce( _.bind( this.priceUpdateHistory, this ), 500 );
this.initialPriceValue = false;
// Footer content history.
this._footerUpdateHistory = _.debounce( _.bind( this.footerUpdateHistory, this ), 500 );
this.initialFooterValue = false;
// Column features history.
this._featuresUpdateHistory = _.debounce( _.bind( this.featuresUpdateHistory, this ), 500 );
this.initialFeaturesValue = false;
},
/**
* Generates child shortcodes from params.
*
* @since 2.0
* @return {void}
*/
beforeGenerateShortcode: function() {
var params = this.model.get( 'params' ),
priceParams = this.model.get( 'priceParams' ),
shortcode = '[fusion_pricing_price',
featuredRows = this.getFeaturedRows(),
footerContent = this.model.get( 'footerContent' );
_.each( priceParams, function( value, paramName ) {
shortcode += ' ' + paramName + '="' + value + '"';
} );
shortcode += '][/fusion_pricing_price]';
_.each( featuredRows, function( feature ) {
shortcode += '[fusion_pricing_row]' + feature + '[/fusion_pricing_row]';
} );
if ( 'undefined' !== typeof footerContent && '' !== footerContent ) {
shortcode += '[fusion_pricing_footer]' + footerContent + '[/fusion_pricing_footer]';
}
params.element_content = shortcode;
this.model.set( 'params', params );
},
setPriceParams: function() {
var params = this.model.get( 'params' ),
priceShortcode = 'undefined' !== typeof params.element_content ? params.element_content : '',
innerRegExp = FusionPageBuilderApp.regExpShortcode( 'fusion_pricing_price' ),
priceShortcodeElement = priceShortcode.match( innerRegExp ),
priceShortcodeAttributes,
priceParams;
if ( ! priceShortcodeElement || ! priceShortcodeElement.length ) {
this.model.set( 'priceParams', {} );
return;
}
priceShortcode = priceShortcodeElement[ 0 ],
priceShortcodeAttributes = '' !== priceShortcodeElement[ 3 ] ? window.wp.shortcode.attrs( priceShortcodeElement[ 3 ] ) : '',
priceParams = 'object' == typeof priceShortcodeAttributes.named ? priceShortcodeAttributes.named : {};
this.model.set( 'priceParams', jQuery.extend( true, {}, priceParams ) );
},
setFooterContent: function() {
var params = this.model.get( 'params' ),
priceShortcode = 'undefined' !== typeof params.element_content ? params.element_content : '',
innerRegExp = FusionPageBuilderApp.regExpShortcode( 'fusion_pricing_footer' ),
footerShortcodeElement = priceShortcode.match( innerRegExp ),
footerShortcode;
if ( ! footerShortcodeElement ) {
this.model.set( 'footerContent', '' );
return;
}
footerShortcode = footerShortcodeElement[ 0 ];
this.model.set( 'footerContent', footerShortcodeElement[ 5 ] );
},
setFeatureRows: function() {
var params = this.model.get( 'params' ),
priceShortcode = 'undefined' !== typeof params.element_content ? params.element_content : '',
pricingColumnRows = FusionPageBuilderApp.findShortcodeMatches( priceShortcode, 'fusion_pricing_row' ),
values = [];
if ( 'object' !== typeof pricingColumnRows || ! pricingColumnRows || ! pricingColumnRows.length ) {
return;
}
_.each( pricingColumnRows, function( pricingColumnRow ) {
var rowContent = '';
if ( 'undefined' !== typeof pricingColumnRow.match( FusionPageBuilderApp.regExpShortcode( 'fusion_pricing_row' ) )[ 5 ] ) {
rowContent = pricingColumnRow.match( FusionPageBuilderApp.regExpShortcode( 'fusion_pricing_row' ) )[ 5 ];
}
values.push( rowContent );
} );
values = values.join( '|' );
this.model.set( 'featureRows', values );
},
clearInvalidParams: function() {
var params = this.model.get( 'params' );
delete params.currency;
delete params.currency_position;
delete params.price;
delete params.time;
params.footer_content = false;
params.feature_rows = false;
this.model.set( 'params', params );
},
/**
* Runs during render() call.
*
* @since 2.0
* @return {void}
*/
onRender: function() {
if ( 'undefined' !== typeof this.model.attributes.selectors ) {
this.model.attributes.selectors[ 'class' ] += ' ' + this.className;
this.setElementAttributes( this.$el, this.model.attributes.selectors );
}
},
/**
* Runs after view DOM is patched.
*
* @since 2.0
* @return {void}
*/
afterPatch: function() {
if ( 'undefined' !== typeof this.model.attributes.selectors ) {
this.model.attributes.selectors[ 'class' ] += ' ' + this.className;
this.setElementAttributes( this.$el, this.model.attributes.selectors );
}
},
/**
* Modify template attributes.
*
* @since 2.0
* @param {Object} atts - The attributes.
* @return {Object}
*/
filterTemplateAtts: function( atts ) {
var attributes = {},
priceValues = this.getPriceValues();
attributes.title = atts.values.title;
attributes.cid = this.model.get( 'cid' );
attributes.titleAttr = this.buildTitleAttr();
this.buildColumnWrapperAttr( atts.values, atts.parentValues.columns );
// Pricing shortcode.
attributes.price = priceValues.price.split( '.' );
attributes.currencyPosition = priceValues.currency_position;
attributes.currency = priceValues.currency;
attributes.time = priceValues.time;
attributes.currencyClasses = this.getCurrencyClasses( priceValues );
attributes.timeClasses = this.getTimeClasses( priceValues );
// Feature rows.
attributes.featureRows = this.getFeaturedRows();
// Footer shortcode.
attributes.footerContent = this.model.get( 'footerContent' );
return attributes;
},
getFeaturedRows: function() {
var values = this.model.get( 'featureRows' );
if ( 'undefined' === typeof values ) {
return [];
}
if ( -1 === values.indexOf( '|' ) ) {
return [ values ];
}
return values.split( '|' );
},
getPriceValues: function() {
var priceParams = this.model.get( 'priceParams' ),
priceDefaults = {
currency: '',
currency_position: 'left',
price: '',
time: ''
};
return jQuery.extend( true, {}, priceDefaults, _.fusionCleanParameters( priceParams ) );
},
getCurrencyClasses: function( priceValues ) {
var currencyClasses = {
class: 'currency'
};
if ( 'right' === priceValues.currency_position ) {
currencyClasses[ 'class' ] += ' pos-right';
if ( -1 !== priceValues.price.indexOf( '.' ) ) {
currencyClasses[ 'class' ] += ' price-without-decimal';
}
}
return currencyClasses;
},
getTimeClasses: function( priceValues ) {
var timeClasses = {
class: 'time'
};
if ( '' !== priceValues.time ) {
if ( -1 === priceValues.price.indexOf( '.' ) ) {
timeClasses[ 'class' ] += ' price-without-decimal';
}
if ( 'right' === priceValues.currency_position ) {
timeClasses[ 'class' ] += ' pos-right';
}
}
return timeClasses;
},
buildTitleAttr: function() {
var cid = this.model.get( 'cid' ),
titleAttr = {
class: 'title-row'
};
_.fusionInlineEditor( {
cid: cid,
param: 'title',
'disable-return': true,
'disable-extra-spaces': true,
toolbar: false
}, titleAttr );
return titleAttr;
},
updatePricingTablePrice: function( name, value ) {
var priceParams = this.model.get( 'priceParams' );
priceParams[ name ] = value;
this.model.set( 'priceParams', priceParams );
this.reRender();
},
updatePricingTableFooter: function( value ) {
this.model.set( 'footerContent', value );
this.reRender();
},
updatePricingTableFeatures: function( value ) {
this.model.set( 'featureRows', value );
this.reRender();
},
priceUpdateHistory: function( name, value ) {
var priceParams = this.model.get( 'priceParams' ),
originalParam = this.initialPriceValue,
state = {
type: 'price-param',
param: name,
newValue: value,
cid: this.model.get( 'cid' )
},
elementMap = fusionAllElements[ this.model.get( 'element_type' ) ],
paramObject = elementMap.params[ name ],
paramTitle = 'object' === typeof paramObject ? paramObject.heading : name;
state.oldValue = originalParam;
FusionEvents.trigger( 'fusion-history-save-step', fusionBuilderText.edited + ' ' + elementMap.name + ' - ' + paramTitle, state );
this.initialPriceValue = false;
},
footerUpdateHistory: function( value ) {
var originalParam = this.initialFooterValue,
state = {
type: 'pricefooter-param',
newValue: value,
cid: this.model.get( 'cid' )
},
elementMap = fusionAllElements[ this.model.get( 'element_type' ) ],
paramObject = elementMap.params.footer_content,
paramTitle = 'object' === typeof paramObject ? paramObject.heading : name;
state.oldValue = originalParam;
FusionEvents.trigger( 'fusion-history-save-step', fusionBuilderText.edited + ' ' + elementMap.name + ' - ' + paramTitle, state );
this.initialFooterValue = false;
},
featuresUpdateHistory: function( value ) {
var originalParam = this.initialFeaturesValue,
state = {
type: 'pricefeatures-param',
newValue: value,
cid: this.model.get( 'cid' )
},
elementMap = fusionAllElements[ this.model.get( 'element_type' ) ],
paramObject = elementMap.params.feature_rows,
paramTitle = 'object' === typeof paramObject ? paramObject.heading : name;
state.oldValue = originalParam;
FusionEvents.trigger( 'fusion-history-save-step', fusionBuilderText.edited + ' ' + elementMap.name + ' - ' + paramTitle, state );
this.initialFeaturesValue = false;
},
/**
* Builder column wrapper attributes.
*
* @since 2.0
* @param {Object} atts - The attributes.
* @return {Object}
*/
buildColumnWrapperAttr: function( values, columns ) {
var attr = {
class: 'panel-wrapper fusion-column column'
};
if ( '5' == columns ) {
columns = 2;
} else {
columns = 12 / parseInt( columns, 10 );
}
attr[ 'class' ] += ' col-lg-' + columns + ' col-md-' + columns + ' col-sm-' + columns;
attr[ 'class' ] += ' fusion-pricingtable-column';
if ( 'yes' === values.standout ) {
attr[ 'class' ] += ' standout';
}
if ( 'undefined' !== typeof values[ 'class' ] && '' !== values[ 'class' ] ) {
attr[ 'class' ] += ' ' + values[ 'class' ];
}
if ( 'undefined' !== typeof values.id && '' !== values.id ) {
attr.id = values.id;
}
this.model.set( 'selectors', attr );
}
} );
_.extend( FusionPageBuilder.Callback.prototype, {
fusionPricingTablePrice: function( name, value, args, view ) {
var priceParams = view.model.get( 'priceParams' ),
originalParam = priceParams[ name ];
// If its the same value, no need to do anything.
if ( originalParam === value ) {
return;
}
if ( ! view.initialPriceValue ) {
view.initialPriceValue = originalParam;
}
view._priceUpdateHistory( name, value );
priceParams[ name ] = value;
view.model.set( 'priceParams', priceParams );
return {
render: true
};
}
} );
_.extend( FusionPageBuilder.Callback.prototype, {
fusionPricingTableFooter: function( name, value, args, view ) {
var originalParam = view.model.get( 'footerContent' );
if ( originalParam === value ) {
return;
}
if ( ! view.initialFooterValue ) {
view.initialFooterValue = originalParam;
}
view._footerUpdateHistory( value );
view.model.set( 'footerContent', value );
return {
render: true
};
}
} );
_.extend( FusionPageBuilder.Callback.prototype, {
fusionPricingTableRows: function( name, value, args, view ) {
var originalParam = view.model.get( 'featureRows' );
if ( originalParam === value ) {
return;
}
if ( ! view.initialFeaturesValue ) {
view.initialFeaturesValue = originalParam;
}
view._featuresUpdateHistory( value );
view.model.set( 'featureRows', value );
return {
render: true
};
}
} );
} );
}( jQuery ) );